A mother wrote an email message to me: My son has a long history of addiction. He got arrested: We hired a lawyer, bailed him out, but he kept using and stealing. He got arrested again: This time, he bailed himself out. Another arrest: We knew he was dying a slow death so we told him that we loved him, but would not bail him out. We would no longer let his addiction destroy him and our family. All the love in the world was not enough to make him stop.
My personal reflection on the passage above offering my thoughts today: This mother writes words that ring true for me: All the love in the world was not enough to make him stop. For Jeff, I couldn’t make him stop because the addiction was not about me, our family or about love.
Dr. MacAfee tells of a group therapy session when he asked a young man, “What’s your drug of choice?” The boy thought carefully and responded, “More.” Dr. MacAfee continues, “His answer was not an attempt at humor. The group understood and answered with a consensus of silence, affirmative head nods. No addict ever intends to end up where he’s really going. Substance drives the addict.”
Today’s Promise: I realize that my child’s addiction is not against me. I will not feel betrayed; I will not feel self blame. I will stay close and pray that my child decides to stop for himself.