Melody Beattie wrote, Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. It turns problems into gifts, failures into successes, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. Gratitude makes things right. 

My reflection: When Jeff was in active addiction, I didn’t feel grateful for much of anything. I wallowed in feelings of guilt, inadequacy, and anger as I asked, Why me? Why our family? I was stuck, immersed, and drowning in sadness and misery.

Today’s Promise to consider: Through the fourteen years of my son’s addiction, I finally learned that gratitude was the antidote to my despair. I began a practice of naming, every day, at least three things for which I was grateful. By scanning my life and identifying all that was good, hope awakened, and I became a more compassionate, person. Today and every day, I will be grateful because it softens my heart and opens the door to allow goodness in.







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So much love and gratitude comes to you from all of us, your “ extended family “, Libby; gratitude for your radiant and wise spirit that lifts life into another realm entirely. Happy Thanksgiving to all!

Pat Nichols

We are all thankful for you and your willingness to share your hope and strength with all who are suffering through the disease of addiction.


Such a beautiful photo of your family, Libby. Today I am grateful for my four sons in recovery with all the bumps, bruises and relapses in their journeys. I am also grateful for all mothers who walk this path me. We are not alone.


Thank you, for this reflection on gratitude. A few years ago, I attended Mass on Thanksgiving Day at a local Carmelite monastery and the priest used this meditation for his homily.

I read Melodie Beatty’s book on Daily Meditations for Codependents nearly every day. Right now I continue to reflect on October 30 and November 20, both address my own feelings.

Thank you, Libby. I enjoy your weekly emails!