“I WISH OTHER PEOPLE COULD UNDERSTAND WHAT OUR LIVES WERE LIKE”

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A mother wrote to me: My son was handsome, respectful, smart, athletic, and a funny young man. Unfortunately, at fifteen, he made a bad choice to experiment with drugs. His life and ours were never the same. He tried to get clean. In fact, he was clean for forty days before he died. I have been blessed with wonderful people in my life, but I know the average person looks down on people who do drugs. I wish other people could understand what our lives were like.

My reflection: Even with the recent public outcry about addiction, society often considers the addict an abyss of moral failure. Many people judge the addict’s family as non-caring, absent, abusive, or non-communicative. Those of us who have addicted children know that this illness doesn’t discriminate. Addiction happens in happy families and unhappy families.

A young addict once told me, “I was raised on a farm in Kansas. My mom and dad were always home, and my entire family worked together on the land. I was fully loved and my family was wonderful. I’m a heroin addict.”

Today’s Promise to consider: I realize that many people judge me when they hear that my son is a heroin addict. I understand that society might criticize me and hold me at fault, but these are the chains of addiction. Today, I will find strength in my support group and continue to love my child without regard for other’s opinions.

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Susan
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Thank you, thank you. This was a wonderful meditation to wake up to.

Pat Nichols
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The false judgement of others hinders are own recovery. We hide, afraid to share which only prolongs the pain and fear we are suffering with. Joining a support group and working with a counselor was the last of my choices but thank God I eventually made those choice as it freed me from others and gave me back my peace and serenity.

Lynn
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Amen.

Nanci
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Libby, this meditation is so on point and I thank you for sharing this. I remain incredibly grateful that my son(s) are good/great, today but have felt and continue to feel what exactly what you stated in your meditation. I can’t imagine what my life would look like today without the support of Alanon, you and Jeff.
Feeling extremely blessed!

Maureen
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Just wanted you to know that today’s gospel was about the paralytic who’s friends decided to take him to Jesus for healing. Because there was no easy way to get to Him, they put a hole in the roof of the house where He was and lowered their friend down. Jesus was so impressed with the faith of the man’s friends that he healed the paralytic on the spot. It really is important to have your support group, your friends and family, to be there to help you and your loved addict. You really aren’t alone and those who judge… Read more »
Lauren
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I’m an addict in recovery, it’s so difficult for us as well as the family. I wish my family would seek support for themselves, likeI have for the last 25 years

Mitzi Turner Poynter
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I’ve lived on both ends of this disease and now I’m free, only by the grace of God. I now have a ministry Rally Against Heroin and one thing we do is have support group meetings on Mondays, not just for heroin addicts, but addicts of any kind and family members. I also have a son in jail indirectly due to his heroin addiction and one still in active addiction. I fight the stigma from all angles in the small town I live in, Somerset, Ky. Thanks for being brave & posting this❤ It’s hell on all angles involving addiction… Read more »
Margaritta
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I’m so sorry for your loss , my heart cry when I her parents loosing their kids , we suppose to die before them , right? I really feel with you , I been through Years with my son , his 26 now clean sober but anything can happen I live day at a time worry and pray for him and others too , ppl they can’t understand how mother’s live suffer cry worry every single day , I feel I’m drugs without using the drug , it’s hard living with the addict , and even harder living without them… Read more »