ADDICTION: DOES HOPE REALLY SPRING ETERNAL?   

Poet Alexander Pope wrote in An Essay on Man (1732) that hope springs eternal. Is it true? 

A mother wrote to me: I am the mother of two sons. The older one is fine, but my younger son is an addict currently working on recovery, again. I’ve been down this road so many times before that it’s hard to be hopeful, but it’s impossible for me not to hope.  During all the years we’ve battled this disease, I haven’t given up on him. I don’t know if that’s good or bad. It just is. 

My reflection: We don’t know when our suffering loved one will start to live life in the solution. We pray that today is the day that our child takes control over his life, but relapse happens. How many relapses does it take? The answer is different for every family.

Today’s Promise to consider: I don’t know how long addiction will rein terror in the life of my loved one or my family, but I will continue to pray, to hope, and to seek the counsel of my support group. Even though parents will be sorely tested, it’s simply not in our nature to give up on our children. Where there is life, there is hope.

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I came away from my weekly AlAnon meeting yesterday so grateful that I have this amazing group to lift me up and give me hope. Though our son is now working and self-sufficient, 15 plus years in the throes of opioid addiction in the rear view mirror, his behaviors often are those of a substance abuser. Not taking responsibility for his past, facing debts, bad credit, arrests. We did the best we could with what we had in our toolbox as parents to live the nightmare. But I do in hindsight see how terrified we were and how we re-acted… Read more »

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My original thoughts regarding counselors and support groups was that they were primarily for those who couldn’t figure out how to fix their child! Yes, the mind set of a very sick parent! It would take this codependent twelve long, painful and costly years before a new path was chosen. Lucky for me there were many other parents who had traveled the path of recovery before me. They were there, patiently waiting for me to enter “the room.” They were so kind, patient, loving and understanding. I eventually found a sponsor and began a one year journey in working The… Read more »

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This is so important to discuss. Especially now. Such chaos and fear. Hope in the darkness, pray without ceasing. Love always. The children we love and have to watch suffer are in the grips of disease with tentacles strangling our lives and families. And society. But I know from experience the person you knew before addiction is still underneath there saying I need you, please love me. Don’t give up on me. My son told me how saying no to him saved his life many times. Most importantly that he never felt he wasn’t loved. So as hard as it… Read more »

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When my son was in active addiction…my mother always said to me, “Hope, when there is no hope”. I have repeated this over and over again through the years, and it has always brought me comfort. She also said, there is no sense to worrying…it doesn’t help anything, it doesn’t change anything, it just makes us miserable…give it all to God. Hope when there is no hope. Amen.

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JOY

That is so perfect mantra. What a wonderful mother.