Dr. MacAfee, my son’s beloved addiction therapist, wrote to me: When people meet on the common ground of truth, healing happens. One of the gifts that you and Jeff share with the field of addiction is the rare and open dialogue between afflicted and affected. This has been sincerely earned.
My reaction to the above: The Big Book of AA says that sobriety can be found only through rigorous honesty. This was a challenge for both Jeff and me. Jeff had to be honest with himself about his addiction, and I had to be honest with myself about the mistakes I made. I also had to find courage not only to talk with Jeff about the many hard things that happened over the span of his fourteen-year illness, but courage to listen and the compassion to understand.
Today’s Promise to consider: I will summon the fearlessness to find the common ground of truth. I will work with those I love to have the tough discussions required to heal. Difficult as it is, I will wade into the rough waters of discord in order to get to the other side where healing and understanding can take place.
Another very insightful post! Recovery opens the door to new life when we are able to be open and honest with ourselves, our spouse and our addicted child. It is an amazing healing quality. I came up with the following slogan to keep me focused on my own recovery, I will not allow the pain of my past to enter my present as it will destroy my future.
Thank you so much Libby.
Dear Pat, Yes, recovery opens the door to a new life for all of us – addicted and those who love him or her. I love your slogan: “I will not allow the pain of my past to enter my present as it will destroy my future.” My sincere thanks to you, as always. I learn from you.