The Japanese Philosopher Diasaku Ikeda tells us: Hope is a flame that we nurture within our hearts. It may be sparked by someone else – by the encouraging words of a friend, relative, or mentor – but it must be fanned and kept burning through our own determination.
Diasaku Ikeda, “On Hardship and Hope.”
My reflection: The saying, “Where there is life, there is hope,” gave me great comfort when my son was in the throes of addiction, but I never thought about hope as a decision. I looked at hope as something that was good to have, like a lucky penny or a four-leaf clover. I struggled to see how we have agency in fostering hope. Nevertheless, in my own way, I held onto the belief that Jeff would find sobriety.
Today’s Promise to consider: With addiction, we are bombarded with negative emotions. People tell us to hope, but sometimes that feels like a dream that will never come true. Diasaku Ikeda reframes the concept, reminding us that hope is a choice. Instead of being paralyzed by despair, let us nurture our hearts with the flame of possibility. On this Thanksgiving, let us believe in the infinite opportunities that are available for both our children and ourselves. Let us hope and pray that our suffering loved ones come home.
Thank you for your insights and encouragement! The most difficult times for me was during the holidays and my son would be lost in his addiction. That empty seat at the dinning room table created fear and sadness while I faked a joyful appearance to my family. Inside my heart was broken and I grieved my missing son. But Libby and others would remind me of the millions of individuals who were once lost but were now in recovery. I’m so grateful for the love, hope and encouragement others gave me during so many of my darkest times. Never give up hope!
Dearest Pat, How I understand. You are so right – that empty seat at the dining table creates a void like none other. Your words continue to help all of us because they remind us that people DO recover. God bless you and your family on this Thanksgiving and every day. Thanks, Pat.