My reflection: During many of the years of my son’s fourteen-year heroin addiction, I thought it was my fault because I must have failed him. Thoughts plagued me, “I should have spent more time at home,” “I worked too much,” “I punished him instead of listening,” and “If I had interceded earlier, the addiction wouldn’t have taken root.”
Today’s Promise to consider: We often blame ourselves for our loved one’s addiction, convinced we’ve done something wrong. In the rooms of Al-Anon, we learn that we didn’t cause it, we can’t control it, and we cannot cure it, but that we can contribute to it. Today, I will give up my feelings of guilt. I will learn how to support my child as HE works to find sobriety and to live in the solution.
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Thank you for your share. My daughter is 20 and this is where I am at. I have contributed to it because I have enabled her but now I am not enabling her. When she is ready to get help she will hopefully come to me. Thank you again.
Dear Colleen, I struggled to stop my enabling because I feared the worst, but with the help of Al-Anon I did it. I join you in hope and prayer. xo