“I DON’T WANT TO BREATHE MY FEAR INTO YOU”

I talked with a friend, whose son is suffering from substance abuse, and I was moved by her words to her son. “I believe in you,” she told him, “Sure I’m afraid of what the future holds for you and our family, but I don’t want to breathe my fear into you. I want to give you hope.”

My reflection: There is a song lyric that I memorized years ago, “Fear can be catching worse than a cold.” Research indicates that emotions are ‘contagious,’ and that negative emotions transfer most easily. When my son was in active addiction, I’m sure he saw tension in my eyes and heard anxiety in my voice, more often than he saw or heard peace or compassion.

Today’s Promise: It’s difficult for our suffering loved ones to carry our anxieties, as well as their own. When they are in the throes of their addiction, they are struggling with obsession, shame, and the chase of the drug. When they are in early recovery, they face countless fears daily – how to get a job, how to pay rent, and how to go the next day without drugs. Today, I’ll try to bolster my serenity and breathe hope into my loved one.

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Pamela
Pamela
5 months ago

This is beautiful to read, Libby, it makes the heart open ~

Angela Squires
Angela Squires
5 months ago

Your words are uplifting and very thought provoking for me. I wish I had read your book and your words years ago when my eldest son was in the throws of drug addiction. He is 30 years old now and has made a go at life without drugs, with his partner and 6month old son for the last 2 years. He started with drugs at the age of 13 and couldn’t stop them until he was about 28. I really wish I had these wise words going through these very difficult challenging times, for him and me!

Danuta
Danuta
5 months ago

Libby, although my brother passed from an accidental drug overdose nearly two years ago, I still find your weekly meditations very educational and uplifting. Needless to say, when I read todays, it made me wish I had this level of understanding and compassion two years ago that I have today….and then I remind myself that we really do the best we can with the tools we have at the time. Thank you for your ongoing commitment to educating us on this disease state.