“I WISH OTHER PEOPLE COULD UNDERSTAND WHAT OUR LIVES ARE LIKE”

A mother wrote to me: My son was handsome, respectful, smart, athletic, and funny. Unfortunately, at fifteen, he made a bad choice to experiment with drugs. His life and ours were never the same. He tried to get clean. In fact, he was clean for forty days before he died. I have been blessed with wonderful people in my life, but I know the average person looks down on people who do drugs. I wish other people could understand what our lives are like.

My reflection: Even with the recent public outcry about addiction and deaths, society often considers the addict an abyss of moral failure. People judge the family as non-caring, absent, abusive, or non-communicative. Those of us who have addicted children know that this illness doesn’t discriminate.

Today’s Promise: Judgment comes swiftly when people hear that our children are suffering from drug abuse. Society criticizes us and holds us at fault, but these are the chains of addiction. Maybe it’s impossible for others to understand the crisis we parents face when the nightmare of addiction enters our homes. Maybe it’s impossible for others to understand the toll it takes on the entire family and the countless efforts we make to stem the tide. I’ve come to realize that all I can do is educate myself, follow my heart, lean into my support group, and pray for my child’s healing.

 

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Sandy Babel
Sandy Babel
3 months ago

Thank you for sharing. I needed this.

Joan
Joan
3 months ago

As I am a mother who has lost her three sons to addiction
This passage rings so true
I feel so judged

Pam basil
Pam basil
3 months ago

This is so true. Not until one walks in the shoes of a mom, do some people truly understand the grips of this disease on our children with hearts of gold.

Karen Wheaton
Karen Wheaton
3 months ago

Thank you Libby.. this is so true
“But God”

Romayne Carter
Romayne Carter
3 months ago

I feel your pain, I lost my son two months ago, it’s the hardest thing to go threw. I put my heart and soul into helping him but as a parent I can only do so much. He just made a bad choice. So all out there that looks down on the addition——
Don’t it’s a Disease / Don’t judge until you do walk in our shoes to understand it all.
God bring peace to all that is going threw this. There in God’s hand ✋ now.
Until we meet again my son ❤️❤️

Laurie
Laurie
3 months ago

My heart breaks in two for all the mothers who have lost their children. I’m so grateful my son is doing well, but I still feel the pain when people talk about “addicts”, “drunks”, etc, like they’re the dregs of society. I look at addicted people in a whole different way now, having lived the nightmare. Now I look at them as tortured human beings- somebody’s son or daughter, a mom or dad, sibling.
I also look at them as never being beyond hope. My son has come back to us…..he’s trying to work past all the wreckage. I pray it lasts. God bless you all