I once asked Jeff a ‘mother’ question, not a great question, but I asked: “Didn’t you see how you were hurting yourself and the people who love you? Didn’t you want to stop all the chaos like arrests and near death? Jeff, why didn’t you stop?”
He looked at me, weary, and sighed, “You still don’t get it, do you? After writing this entire book, you still don’t understand that I never wanted to hurt you – I wanted to protect you from all of it, to keep you out of it and to the side. You’ve written about me at my worst, my most vulnerable, my most desperate. I’m an addict. I was addicted. An addict doesn’t want to hurt those he loves, but he can’t stop using drugs – oftentimes until death.”
Today’s Promise to consider: Addicts don’t want to hurt us – their mothers, fathers, brothers, or sisters. Drugs are powerful, and they take our addicted loved ones under, under into chaos and desperation. I will remember that addiction smashes love. Today, I’ll keep loving my child who is under the drugs.3703
perfect for today. Thank you Libby. You and your family are heros in my life. This is so good. Jeffs words so good. Thank you for reminding us it’s not our children but the drugs that destroy.
Thank you, Shelley, for your compassionate words. Jeff is wise. and I continue to learn from him. You’re right – it’s the drugs that destroy. Addiction wants to smash love into pieces and to wreck families. We’ll stay close. Love to you. Happy Mother’s Day <3
So true Libby yet so hard to understand all the emotional complexities that the disease creates!
Yes, Pat, yes. So hard. My emotions and head were in constant battle. Confounding, baffling, and powerful.
This is truly a battle they must fight for themselves. We can be on the sidelines, cheering them on, but we are powerless otherwise.
Mindy, You’re so right, and it was such a hard lesson for me to learn. I had to admit that I was powerless. My love to you.
Thank you Libby and Jeff for sharing your stories every week
Have a blessed Mother’s Day
Thank you, Karen, for staying close and for your compassionate message. We wish you a blessed Mother’s Day, too. <3