A recovering addict wrote to me: Addiction seems to be the epidemic of our world today destroying not only the addict, but also everyone around him. I read about Jeremy’s pain and frustration, and see my little brother’s hurt and inner battle. But the message is still hope. We are not alone. Ironic that a disease that is afflicting millions of people is a disease that isolates us. It does this because the one true defense, the true power against addiction, is standing together, walking together and holding each other as we trip and stumble.
My thought: These words strike me as true. Dr. MacAfee says it another way, “Only by taking addiction out of the darkness where it does its best work and into the light can it be healed.” Addiction thrives by isolating the addict and his family. If the addict keeps the secret, he keeps the addiction. Only by standing together in honesty, holding hands and working together, can we fight this disease.
Today’s Promise to consider: I will not keep the secret of addiction. I will not isolate myself in shame, stigma and silence. I will fight against addiction for my loved one and myself.
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Dear Libby,
When I read the part of this week's meditation, "addiction thrives by isolating the addict and his family", I thought this:
Addiction is like some infections. Infection thrives on bacteria and grows and grows. It's like a cancer that grows and strangles the addict to death.When we get infections, we go to a doctor and get antibiotics, etc., to combat the infection.
The addict who is in recovery, goes into combat every single day. No doctor, no antibiotics, no medicine. The addicts medicine is his courage, strength and resolve, to get through each and every day without drugs.
You're right about bringing the addiction into the light and out of secrecy. If the addiction is isolated in secrecy, the "infection", as I see it, festers until it dies. My son died in a secret drug house. Everything about his death was a secret.
Thank you Libby, for bringing all of us into the light. You're doing God's work by helping so many people and I appreciate your sincere and honest hard work. It's precious.
Love to you,
Barbara
Barbara,
You are such a strong person, you have gone through my worst nightmare and seem to encourage others. My son isolates himself when he is using and when we can't find him I know something is wrong. Thankfully the last time, the police found him in his truck parked outside a drug house. He had been passed out for several hours, deprived of oxygen and near death. He is recovering but this time he will be reminded. He has memory loss, nerve damage and damage to other parts of his body from lack of oxygen. I hope he can learn and start his road to recovery by hearing others who were not so lucky to survive.
Dear Kim,
Thank you for your kind words. I pray your son will have a full recovery, both physically and mentally. I also pray that he'll never use again.
As a mother, I know your pain. Try to keep your spirits up and always think positively.
With deep respect and love,
Barbara
Thank you for posting this. I am going out on a limb and putting myself and loved ones on blast. I only have hope that it will not backfire on me and get negative feedback from some of my family members. Thank you respectfully Karyn
So true Libby. My wife and I no longer keep the addiction of our son or the suffering parents endure due to this disgusting disease a secret. In fact, The Oklahoman (a state wide newspaper) just did a article about my wife and I that appeared in Last Monday's edition.
The article states that my son was in recovery but he was actually arrested for copper theft and sits in the county jail. I received a letter from him today telling me he read the article and shared it with his cell mates. He then congratulated his mom and me! Imagine that!!!
http://newsok.com/edmond-parents-experience-inspires-national-parents-network/article/3706649
I encourage all parents to free themselves and to step out into the light of recovery. You are safe and understood in the recovery community.
In prayer for all who suffer from this disease.
Pat
Pat , I could not agree with you more. My healing began when I stopped denying, and started talking about it. I am open about it with everyone and I advocate whenever I can. This was the way I heal best, in service to others through Al Anon or teaching about the disease at work (I am a nurse educator). Silence keeps us sick. But, we can only do what we feel ready to do.
Love and blessings to all
Jane
I loved this. Thank you.
Isolation is the terrarium for addiction, and this was such a good reminder of how alcoholism thrives in secrets...
You ROCK Libby! Thank you for teaching my mom about addiction
:-) I can't wait until my book gets out there!
:-)
Love,
Laura
Dear All,
My heart soars with gratitude to all of you who participate here and make us better. Barbara, you are our fearless leader and I treasure your comments and strength. Pat, you've been helping people who love addicts for years. Jane and Hope, thanks for your steady support and care. To all - you make us better!!
Thanks, too, to our young teammates, Laura and Feather. You add experience from both sides addiction.
My love and gratitude. We are not alone. We have each other.
L