My personal reaction: Dr MacAfee says, “Addiction is loss.” Recovery, he said, offered Jeff the space to rediscover his identity and, in time, the real Jeff would emerge. This was a journey that Jeff would have to do alone. I came to realize the enormity of the fight that he had to face in order to win his battle against addiction.
I once told Jeff, “You have a lot of courage to do this again.” He paused and then said quietly, almost to himself, “Courage? That’s a word rarely used with people like me. Yeah, it takes courage.”
Today’s Promise to Consider: Words like strength, courage, and hope are seldom used in the same sentence with addicts. My son and I faced journeys of despair and self-discovery. Courage: we both needed courage as we made decisions that would lead to our health and wholeness. My son chose to fight his addiction. I chose to fight my anxiety. We both chose to change.
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Dear Libby,
You are both right on. It takes plenty of courage. I was in treatment with my son. It was a program called "Family Restructuring". I witnessed plenty of courage. There are many people out there that don't have the courage to face even their slightest problems, and make the changes they need to make to have a successful life. The recovering addict and every person that loves that addict (and recovering along with that addict) are to me among the most courageous and genuine people I know!
Hugs
Gina
Thanks, Gina, for your comment. You're right - it takes courage to change, for them and for us. Un abbraccio forte! Libby
I think as a mom, there is always worry when change and success are hand in hand after battling addiction. I continue to pray and for now, the future continues to look promising! Have a very blessed Christmas!
Courage
strength
faith
hope
The entire family as well as the addicted person needs a healthy dose of all of the above, on a daily basis. We are always fighting against fear, worry and anxiety. I pray for peace and serenity and continued hope for those who have lost their hope. Where there is still life there is still hope.
God bless all
With love,
Jane
Dear Lisa, You're correct and I remind myself, "One day at a time." Jeff is good today and I pray for tomorrow. I remain humble in the face of addiction. A blessed Christmas to you and yours. Libby
Dear Jane, Courage, strength, faith and hope are the cornerstones of our walk - I agree. This is true with all trauma, not just addiction. Life requires all of the above. Thanks for sharing. Love to you.
I prayed for courage more than anything else during my step-son's struggle with addiction. After God granted me (us) courage, strength, faith and hope soon followed.
Isaiah 41:13: I am the Lord your God. I am holding your hand, so don't be afraid. I am here to help you.
Blessings to you and your family ~
Dear Karen, Thank you for sharing the powerful scripture. I prayed often from Philippians 4: I can do all things through Christ who strengths me." I love Isaiah and the words, "Don't be afraid." I was often afraid. Blessing to you and your family. Libby
Dr. McAfee is so right. Addiction IS loss....Libby, you're right about courage. An addict has to have the courage to heal. If my son had had the courage to fight his addiction, he would be here today. My son was truly a wonderful and kind person. He just didn't have the strength and courage to fight his addiction. His addiction controlled him and he lost any and all part of his fight against it.
Once again, thank you all for the continuing support. I am truly blessed to have all of you in my corner.
With love, in Christ,
Barbara
Dear Barbara, Oftentimes I think about my breast cancer. I could have chosen not to fight. I could have chosen to allow the cancer to spread. But I didn't. What makes some people fight and others not? I don't know, but I do know that we can't heal our sons or make them whole. It's something they have to do on their own and for themselves.
We are in your corner and you are never alone.
Love you,
Libby